Don't Cry Because It's Over, Smile Because It Happened

Recently, I was out with a group of friends having a good time and learned that one of them will be moving out of state soon. While I don’t know her well, we have shared a business/social relationship and had experienced a mutual respect and warming toward one another over time. I will be disappointed to see her go but the move will be a good one for her, and for that, I am happy. I relayed that this has been a reoccurring theme in my life. As a child I moved around a lot and didn’t mind it. I always saw it as a new adventure and a chance to meet new people and see new horizons. After becoming close with individuals over the years, the relationships come to an end either because they, or I, have moved away. Now with a family and with setting down roots being important to me, I am more melancholy with the coming and going of people in my life. I became emotional during the course of our conversation, stating that even when people have the best intentions, relationships do fade and change with distance and time. I am including a poem that I found that has a positive perspective about this ebb and flow our lives:

SOME PEOPLE ~ By Flavia Weedn Some people come into our lives and leave footprints on our hearts and we are never ever the same. Some people come into our lives and quickly go...Some stay for a while and embrace our silent dreams. They help us become aware of the delicate winds of hope... and we discover within every human spirit there are wings yearning to fly. They help our hearts to see that the only stairway to the stars is woven with dreams... and we find ourselves unafraid to reach high. They celebrate the true essence of who we are... and have faith in all that we may become. Some people awaken us to new and deeper realizations... for we gain insight from the passing whisper of their wisdom. Throughout our lives we are sent precious souls... meant to share our journey however brief or lasting their stay they remind us why we are here. To learn...to teach...to nurture...to love. Some people come into our lives to cast a steady light upon our path and guide our every step their shining belief in us helps us to believe in ourselves. Some people come into our lives to teach us about love... The love that rests within ourselves. Let us reach out to others and feel the bliss of giving for love is far richer in action than it ever is in words. Some people come into our lives and they move our souls to sing and make our spirits dance. They help us to see that everything on earth is part of the incredibility of life... and that it is always there for us to take of its joy. Some people come into our lives and leave footprints on our hearts and we are never ever the same.

Be Vulnerable!

I've been running across several quotes lately that have made me stop and think about allowing ourselves to feel and be vulnerable. By letting down our guard, we are suseptible to feeling many things that include sadness, fear and pain to go along with our feelings of love and joy and that is scarey for many people. Ask yourself, what the worst thing is that can happen if you let go of expectati ons (self-imposed, imposed by others or imaginary) ...maybe I will look foolish... or maybe people will think less of me... or maybe I will be rejected... or maybe I'll get hurt... or (insert your own fear.) It helps when we decide to stop classifying feelings as "good" or "bad" but just simply human emotions and allow ourselves to feel and process and grow from them and not getting stuck there. So Go Ahead, Be Vulnerable! Allow Yourself to Feel! ~Tele "The walls we build around us to keep sadness out also keeps out joy." — Jim Rohn "Resisting and avoiding pain sucks energy—and time...The more you let yourself feel those minute-and-a-half hells, the quicker you’ll start feeling those minute-and-a-half happinesses." — Leigh Newman (This quote copied from Oprah website) "Be willing to vulnerable, naked and rejected. - Trust that you don’t need a fortress around your heart to be safe anymore. Whatever you think is protecting you from the slightest possible pain is actually what’s blocking the softest sweetest most gentle healing love from finding its way inside. The willingness to be a transparent human being is the most courageous act you can do with your life. Be willing to experience whatever level of exposure, nakedness, or rejection that you’re afraid to experience, and you’ll find that what you were really running from was only in your imagination." — J. Ozwald (This quote copied from the Facebook wall of: Lisa A. Rizzoli)